I remember the first time I saw generosity in my husband. We were eating pizza with some friends, all of whom had pitched in for the meal though Nick had spent the majority of the money. A few moments later, some other friends walked up to our table, sat down, engaged us in conversation and one of them reached for a slice. Nick watched him eat, offered him more and said goodnight as they left.
I couldn’t believe it. Wasn’t he going to tell them that he paid for the pizza? That they couldn’t just walk up and take what wasn’t theirs? I mean, who did they think they were? When I asked Nick later why he didn’t say anything, he just shrugged. “I don’t care. They must have been hungry.”
He didn’t care. He had thought the best of them while I had labeled them as thieves.
My husband is one of the most generous people I know and has taught me a lot about money. After receiving a donation, one of the first things he thinks about is who he can give to. In fact, that is the culture of most of the people I know and work with here in YWAM (Youth With A Mission).
YWAMers are some of the poorest, yet more generous people I’ve come across. I can’t remember the last time I was told I “owed” anyone money. When times are hard, we seem to have a running tab with some of our closer friends. Recently, I made it a point to pay them back and I walked to their house to give them what I owed.
“What’s this?” asked my friend.
“Oh, that’s what I owe you. You know, for such and such.” She stared at the money, still in my hands and smiled.
“Are you sure?”
‘Are you sure?’ Has someone ever asked you that in response to what you owe them? What if your waitress asked that when you handed her a tip? Or a toll booth operator when you passed through a toll. I’m sure a few people would say “well, now I’m not so sure. No, I’ll keep this, thanks.”
It sounds silly, but God’s kingdom operates like this – it’s called generosity: where people who may or may not have what they need can always afford to give. My friend asked me if I was sure because she knew that times were tough for Nick and I. She thought of me first before thinking of herself. And I find a lot of people operate in such a way in the Kingdom of God.
Our church here in Townsville is consistently generous. A few months back, I told one of the women in my church that I liked her dress. I genuinely thought it was cool and she looked great in it.
“Do you like it?” she asked. “What size are you? I’ll get you one!”
I giggled and blushed a little, hoping that she didn’t think I wanted hers. But of course she didn’t think that. She was being generous and wanted me to be as happy in her dress as she was. Sure enough, a few weeks ago, Nick came home with a bag and inside was a pretty, white dress from my friend at church.
In the Bible (and countless other places), it teaches that it is better to give than to receive. I have to agree that nothing feels better. I know what it’s like to have nothing and to be desperate for some kind of relief. So when I am generous and see the result in another person’s life, it feels great!
If you don’t know this feeling or haven’t felt it in a while, I would challenge you to try it once a week. It’s ok if you can’t give money. Be generous with your time, be generous with kind words, be generous with your stuff – there is always someone around you that could use a little of what you have.
On the other hand, let people know when you are in need. If you are hurting, trust me – your friends and family want to know. If you need $10 or just time to get away for a coffee, tell someone! I bet there’s someone you could call and they would be there for you in a heartbeat. There is no shame in asking and there’s no shame in receiving.
I dare you to try it…or might you too proud to beg?
“He who a receives good turn should never forget it;
he who does one should never remember it.”
- Marcel Proust